Not sure if this is the right forum topic to write my question. I really need some advice
This is long so I will list in points
1) I live with my inlaws(Mother in law and father in law) in USA
2) My mom lives all alone in India. My father passed away and I dont have any siblings.
3) We have a 8 month old son.
4) When my mom comes to visit me, she cannot stay with me for a long time because my mom and my mother in law are different personalities and my mother in law is not comfortable
being with my mom.
5) My mom lives all alone in India and she comes all the way spending around $1500 to come see me, my husband and my son because we are the only family she has.
6) But unfortunately she cannot stay with me. She stays with her sisters who live here as well.
7) Now I go to visit her on the weekends. She eagerly waits to see her grandson the entire week. I work on the weekdays so I just get the weekends to spend some time with her.
8)My inlaws and my husband dont like that I go every weekend. My mother in law takes care of our son when I am at work. And if I am not even there on the weekends and help my mother in law
in cooking and other house chorus then she has to do all this all alone and she gets exteremely tired.
9) I dont understand whats right and whats wrong
10) My mom comes here just to visit for few months. She is all alone all the time in India. Dies to be with family and meet his grandson. If I go see her on every weekend that upsets my inlaws
and my husband.
If I stay home I feel I am not being fair to my mom.
11) I feel my husband is usually in favor of his parents. I feel like he doesnt try understand my problems or even if he does he thinks whats right for his parents first.
On the other hand, he thinks I dont respect what he tells me to do.
I get so stressed out sometimes just thinking what I should be doing.
This is long so I will list in points
1) I live with my inlaws(Mother in law and father in law) in USA
2) My mom lives all alone in India. My father passed away and I dont have any siblings.
3) We have a 8 month old son.
4) When my mom comes to visit me, she cannot stay with me for a long time because my mom and my mother in law are different personalities and my mother in law is not comfortable
being with my mom.
5) My mom lives all alone in India and she comes all the way spending around $1500 to come see me, my husband and my son because we are the only family she has.
6) But unfortunately she cannot stay with me. She stays with her sisters who live here as well.
7) Now I go to visit her on the weekends. She eagerly waits to see her grandson the entire week. I work on the weekdays so I just get the weekends to spend some time with her.
8)My inlaws and my husband dont like that I go every weekend. My mother in law takes care of our son when I am at work. And if I am not even there on the weekends and help my mother in law
in cooking and other house chorus then she has to do all this all alone and she gets exteremely tired.
9) I dont understand whats right and whats wrong
10) My mom comes here just to visit for few months. She is all alone all the time in India. Dies to be with family and meet his grandson. If I go see her on every weekend that upsets my inlaws
and my husband.
If I stay home I feel I am not being fair to my mom.
11) I feel my husband is usually in favor of his parents. I feel like he doesnt try understand my problems or even if he does he thinks whats right for his parents first.
On the other hand, he thinks I dont respect what he tells me to do.
I get so stressed out sometimes just thinking what I should be doing.