AOA to all brothers and sisters
I am new to this sunniforum, so hoping for the best possible advice...
My parents initially wanted me to get married to my cousin, for 4 years theyre were quite adamant that if i marry i marry this cousin of mine, who ive never met, spoken to etc..Furthernore, he is from pakistan and illiterate so theres no compatibility whatsoever...my parents cried, yet i was confident that if i marry it will be from someone from the uk who is compatible, i.e a professional in the same field as myself so theres a better understanding and theres no communication barriers...i kept rejecting then my parents gave u but in them theyre were still convinced that i will get married because i am quite soft hearted...my sister would ring my mum and tell her about marriage proposals but mum just used to shout and say tell them shes engaged...this cousin of mine has pictures of me in his bedroom and my parents allowed this desite not being married...
During the time my parents did ask me if i have anyone in mind but i was too dedicated towards my studies and never dates...
Just recently about 4 months ago i have spoken to a male who has a good character mashAllah, good attributes, qualities, and is an inspirational as i learn alot about my religion from him...i told my parents the truth that i have not met this person but like hime very much, they simply wont believe this person who is etc and have refused to even seeing this guy...i really like him and he does too, however, he has said if parents are not happy cant do anything...i cant let go knowing that someone does so much with me and really cares, and has all the qualities i seek in my ppotential...
My parents feel i have been dating this pperson and have said ive lowered them in their eyes...when ive just spoken to him...
Please help as i am very distraught and require help, any duas i can read...???
This sister will be very grateful if you could guide her and help her as to what should be done...thak you
jazakhAllah
I am new to this sunniforum, so hoping for the best possible advice...
My parents initially wanted me to get married to my cousin, for 4 years theyre were quite adamant that if i marry i marry this cousin of mine, who ive never met, spoken to etc..Furthernore, he is from pakistan and illiterate so theres no compatibility whatsoever...my parents cried, yet i was confident that if i marry it will be from someone from the uk who is compatible, i.e a professional in the same field as myself so theres a better understanding and theres no communication barriers...i kept rejecting then my parents gave u but in them theyre were still convinced that i will get married because i am quite soft hearted...my sister would ring my mum and tell her about marriage proposals but mum just used to shout and say tell them shes engaged...this cousin of mine has pictures of me in his bedroom and my parents allowed this desite not being married...
During the time my parents did ask me if i have anyone in mind but i was too dedicated towards my studies and never dates...
Just recently about 4 months ago i have spoken to a male who has a good character mashAllah, good attributes, qualities, and is an inspirational as i learn alot about my religion from him...i told my parents the truth that i have not met this person but like hime very much, they simply wont believe this person who is etc and have refused to even seeing this guy...i really like him and he does too, however, he has said if parents are not happy cant do anything...i cant let go knowing that someone does so much with me and really cares, and has all the qualities i seek in my ppotential...
My parents feel i have been dating this pperson and have said ive lowered them in their eyes...when ive just spoken to him...
Please help as i am very distraught and require help, any duas i can read...???
This sister will be very grateful if you could guide her and help her as to what should be done...thak you
jazakhAllah